What I Think About White Women Who Only Date Black Men

I can talk about this. I’m black.

Kateria Wynn
5 min readJun 13, 2022
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A newish friend, a white woman, recently told me one of her dirty little secrets.

She’s 37 and has only ever dated and slept with black men.

She lives in a predominantly white town but says black men have always been part of her life experience.

Since the attraction has always been mutual, she’s always been open to living outside the box.

She can’t deny her reality.

She wanted to know my perspective as another black woman.

One of her other black friends says she doesn’t particularly agree with this “lifestyle” because, according to her, black people have not yet healed from the impacts of colonialism.

Black couples need a chance to experience the kind of love only a black person can give to another black person to move forward.

More profound spiritual and generational healing is yet to be had within the black community, and that safe space can only be cultivated in the container of black love.

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Kateria Wynn
Kateria Wynn

Written by Kateria Wynn

I write to explore the unspoken, inviting you into the quiet tension of human connection—raw, intimate, and alive with truths that linger.