Marriage Isn’t Love; It’s a Legally Binding Contract! Time to Get Real!
Marriage is all about the fine print, not the fairy tale.
Let’s just put it out there — marriage, as it’s peddled today, is the biggest con of our time.
That fairy tale “happily ever after” story we’ve been spoon-fed?
Fuck that!
It’s time to come clean: in our modern times, nobody’s tying the knot purely for “love” anymore (if they ever did).
And why should we?
We’re smarter now — and it’s high time we pass this wisdom on to future generations.
Stop romanticizing marriage.
These days, people are walking down the aisle for business mergers, legal loopholes, and, of course, that sweet, sweet tax break.
And let’s not forget the perks: guaranteed romps, built-in help with “adulting,” and the desire to build family units — valid reasons, given how our society is structured.
But make no mistake: the fairy tale of marriage was built around the family structure, a cornerstone of capitalist societies.
The family unit has been like capitalism’s secret lover — keeping the economic bed warm, providing a steady supply of workers, and ensuring wealth is passed around like party favors.
None of these are inherently negative, but the idea that love equals marriage? That’s pure capitalist invention, baby.
So what’s my concern?
With all the fairy tales, rom-coms, and media messages we’ve been bombarded with, why aren’t we seeing the real deal?
Imagine an ad for marriage that was as straightforward as, “Get hitched, get help, and maybe get lucky — but don’t forget to read the fine print!”
Why are we still waxing poetic about love when the real deal is making sure your prenup is tighter than your wedding dress?
It’s like wrapping barbed wire in lace and calling it a hammock — it’s not comfy; it’s a trap, and it doesn’t hold up under pressure.
Even today, many young women still aspire to marry a man who “provides” for them.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with that, but if maturity and relationship experience aren’t exactly well-done on both sides, it’s a recipe for exploitation and control, not empowerment.
In today’s world, unless he’s offering out of genuine love and because he can truly afford it, it’s unreasonable to expect financial support.
For many women, seeking “providers” can be a cover for lacking the skills to cultivate independence.
If no one has mentioned it before, let me be clear: depending on someone else for your survival is not a healthy approach.
That might have worked when you were living with your parents or guardians, but your partner isn’t either of those.
This often leads to co-dependent relationships, as I experienced in a nearly decade-long partnership.
We lived together for six years, starting at age 22, which deepened our codependency due to our youth.
I contributed both financially and in homemaking, but during times when I was between jobs or briefly pursuing my dreams — with reduced income or none at all — I became increasingly dependent on him.
He used this dependency to keep me in line, making it hard for me to speak up or challenge him when I needed to, fearing l’d end up homeless.
The only times I truly felt empowered were when I was earning my own money or when he was relying on financial aid and a limited income from an internship during his two-year MBA program.
It’s now clear being a homemaker is a full-time job, and in these modern times, it shouldn’t lead to one-sided dependency.
In an equal partnership, responsibilities at home should be shared — no one should be working and managing everything alone in this day and age (unless, of course, you’re embracing a non-traditional relationship style like me).
That’s exploitation, not a partnership.
This isn’t about traditional gender roles; it’s about leveraging strengths and delegating based on capability, not outdated norms.
We need to stop pushing this archaic narrative that leaves people disillusioned and, frankly, broke.
Women today who truly know their worth aren’t fantasizing about marriage anymore; they’re calculating its ROl.
They see through the “princess for a day” charade and are questioning what the hell they’re actually signing up for.
When you strip the fairy tale away, it’s not love — it’s a legally binding contract with more fine print than a gym membership cancellation policy.
Let’s not pretend marriage is all about candlelit dinners and forever vows.
It’s about aligning assets, estate planning, and figuring out how to share a bathroom without declaring a domestic war. (Why hasn’t someone invented a bathroom-sharing app yet?)
Oh, plot twist! I actually did! (Yes, I was a software engineer once upon a time).
Get ready for my next post, where I’ll reveal the brilliant pitch that’ll solve your bathroom battles.
Trust me, you won’t want to flush this one away!
Now, the institution as a love story? That’s just the marketing campaign.
I’ve seen how these campaigns are crafted — designed to tug at your tender heartstrings while emptying your wallet.
This is capitalism dressed in white.
And here’s the kicker: it’s totally fine to tie the knot for business, legal, or financial reasons — just be honest about it.
Ladies and gentlemen, it’s time to stop leading with your hormones and emotions and start leading with your head.
Modern marriage isn’t about love; it’s about contracts, negotiations, and strategies.
So let’s be real, transparent, and clear-eyed about why we’re either in or considering this game. It’s not personal, it’s just business.
And ladies, it’s time to empower ourselves with education.
Historically, we’ve been given the short end of the stick in this institution, and this time, we’ve got no excuses to continue that cycle.
You wouldn’t sign a business deal without reading the contract, so why would you sign a marriage certificate without knowing what you’re getting into?
Take off the rose-colored glasses and see marriage for what it really is — a strategic alliance that requires just as much brain as it does heart.
In fact, maybe a little more brain wouldn’t hurt.
So, put down TikTok, skip the dreamy Pinterest wedding boards, and have a real talk with a lawyer first.
And then talk to your soon-to-be co-executive in the “marriage merger.”
Knowledge is power, and in this case, it’s your greatest asset.
The truth? Most of the population are seeking love in a labyrinth of lies, fake smiles, and empty promises.
And let’s be real, who wouldn’t feel a little off-kilter when navigating a society built on fluff and no substance?
A lot of women are still chasing that fairy tale of being picked by “the one,” as if snagging a soulmate is some kind of designer handbag at a
Black Friday sale.
This idea’s been drilled so deep into our psyches that many will go to absurd lengths to be someone’s “it girl,” all fueled by a cocktail of insecurity and hormones.
But here’s the real tea: no relationship is going to light up your life if you’re not already vibing with yourself, your own energy, and the gorgeous face staring back at you in the mirror.
Sure, you can pursue personal growth in a committed relationship, but let’s be real — the fairy-tale chase often blinds many women from doing this crucial inner work once they’re locked in.
The only “one” you should choose, today and every day, is yourself.
Let your self-love be the most important thing you bring to the table in all your relationships.
If you don’t realize this before signing on the dotted line, don’t sweat it — you’ll learn the lesson loud and clear once you’re in the thick of it.
Nothing screams SEXY like making confident choices while being head-over-heels.
That’s the fantasy I want for everyone — steamy, no-BS relationships built on truth and equal partnership.
I’m over this world overflowing with deception and fake smiles. Let’s get real.
Ladies, it’s time for emotional balance. Our feelings can be easily manipulated by the media and those who claim to love us.
Emotional manipulation, especially from men today, is rampant and often ignored due to traditional power dynamics.
We need more women who can feel deeply yet navigate the world with calm, objective mindsets — because it’s our emotions that hook us and then sink us in those fairy-tale narratives crafted by society or even by potential suitors, often with little regard for our well-being.
So, why can’t we be real about the marriage fairy tale?
My proposal? Let’s view marriage through a modern lens — where women are equal partners, not purchases.
Getting married for love when love is free?
That’s cognitive dissonance I can’t digest.
Why chase fairy tales when you could negotiate the best deal of your life?
Ready for some real talk?
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